I am fully anticipating that something – perhaps many things – will not go according to plan on our actual wedding day. If some of the flowers are wilted, or there aren’t enough vegetarian meals, or the priest calls me the wrong name, I will embrace these errors.
I loved everything about my wedding look, but, in retrospect, I would have changed the position of where we attached the veil on my head. Make sure you test a few different placements and styles before the big day to make a clear vision and plan with your hairstylist.
Sure, men like a challenge – but so do women. And nobody likes to be challenged all the time. I know plenty of long-standing happy couples who slept together right away, spent hours yakking on the phone, split checks down the middle, and lived together for years before the wedding.
If you’re engaged more than a year, there’s something up. There’s lot of debate as to whether one should or shouldn’t get married, but when you get engaged, it’s a promise to get married, and if you don’t just do it within a year, one of the parties is using the excuse of, like, ‘I can’t find the right venue’ to put off the wedding.
I was in a fertility situation publicly, so I disappeared. I was very satisfied just being to able to creatively express myself with writing. The white hot publicity that came from ‘My Big Fat Greek Wedding’ was appreciated but not sought, so I was happy to walk away from it and then write.
It was about 2012, 2013. I started from zero. Small fashion shows, small photoshoots. I’ve seen a lot. I’ve seen a lot of things up close. I married my sister off; I gave jahez for her wedding. I tried to keep relations going with my family. I bought a house for them in Multan. My parents are settled in Multan; my house is there.
I don’t really have many regrets. I did miss a lot of the events in the days leading up to my sister’s wedding because I was at a U17 camp. There were moments like that growing up when I felt like I focused too much on soccer. But that’s probably the reason I am where I am today.
The vibe of my wedding is kind of going to be ethereal. Simple and modern, in a way, but with a lot of greenery. So, eucalyptus, olive branches, moss, and candles – it’s going to be very… I want it to feel very comfortable, but obviously sleek.
I can’t tell you how lucky I feel. I’ve gotten to work Peter Facinelli ‘American Odyssey,’ and I got to do ‘My Big Fat Greek Wedding 2’ – which really gave me such a tremendous amount of pride and patriotism, and it was very close to my heart. I’ve really had such great support, so many great teachers, and so many wonderful people surrounding me.
I’m definitely willing to film it for sure. I feel like I’ve taken people on this incredible journey on ‘Total Divas’ and ‘Total Bellas.’ They have seen me cry, get angry, and be so many different ways about marriage. I feel like for my fan base, my Bella Army, I should let them tune in to my wedding.
I once accidentally ‘replied all’ and sent an email complaining about my then-boyfriend to a bunch of strangers. It was meant for my friend who was a bride, but I ended up addressing her entire wedding party. Her marriage lasted; my relationship didn’t.
Dealing with wedding stuff is a bit of a double-edged sword – it seems that divorcees are expected to either burn it all on the front lawn, tears silently coursing down their faces, or keep the stuff, shrine-like, concealed somewhere in their homes.
We’ve been seeing a lot of brides buying two dresses for their wedding, especially in America, and a lot of brides are talking about changing shoes halfway through. It is a very long day to be wearing one pair of shoes, however comfortable they are. It is about marrying that combination of style and comfort together.
I got ‘Scandal,’ and that was, far and away, the biggest deal that had happened in my career. Simultaneously, the stress from planning my wedding and being in the public eye for the first time, combined with genetics – I got the diagnosis that I had psoriasis, and I was completely embarrassed and ashamed. I felt like a lesser person.
I’ve had the kind of complex life I write about. I was a single mother for 12 years. I’d been engaged. The wedding fell through. I then discovered I was pregnant and opted to have the child on my own. I was a professor. I was in my mid-30s. I could manage it financially.
My wedding dress is a piece of art that I’ll treasure forever. It was designed and created by Zac Posen. I gave him only the tiniest bit of direction when he started, and the end product was more beautiful than anything I could have imagined.
I went to a wedding in St. Maarten, and we took a boat ride over to Anguilla for a day. We went to a beach that had the whitest sand I had ever seen before in my life. I was in the water up to the middle of my chest and could still see my feet. It was the clearest water.
I have been known to, on more than one occasion, look down my nose at items I deem to be tacky wedding fare… carnations, tulle, DIY invitations. And yet, the wedding I’m most embarrassed of having planned, the one I’d never put into my portfolio, is my own.
I’m a married gay man, so you might think that I appreciate the government forcing a Christian baker or photographer or florist to act against their religion in order to cater, photograph, or decorate my wedding. But you’d be wrong. A government that can force Christians to violate their conscience can force me to violate mine.
It’s a funny thing when you finally have an excuse to get all of your favorite people from all corners of the globe together in one room for my wedding. Other than saying ‘I do’ to my hunky Englishman, that is the thing I am most excited about!
I first got engaged when I was 19, but I just knew there was more of life out there for me. I called it off six weeks before the wedding. I felt terribly guilty because he was such a nice boy, and I was in love with him. But it was the wrong time.
I cannot stand when you go to a wedding and get fed tiny portions. I want everyone to have a good feed on my wedding day, so I plan on having several types of sausage, mash, and gravy up for grabs. Every guest will have a Yorkshire pudding, too!
It will be a Maharashtrian wedding that will happen in early 2020; I plan to wear a saree for the main rituals. This is what we are looking at right now. But we have to take a call on whether we will go all out or to make it a small family affair.
We actively encourage teenagers not to have babies, we applaud young career women in their twenties, then before you know it you find yourself, as I did, aged 32 at a friend’s wedding and being quizzed by everyone about why you haven’t got round to reproducing yet.
The two biggest meals of your life you don’t have to cook and you don’t get to eat. The first you don’t eat because no man eats – or cares what he eats – at his wedding. The second you don’t eat because, well, no man eats at his funeral, either.
