A lot of people – boys – look at me differently. They think that if they date me, they are gay because they are dating another boy. In instances like this, I feel almost excluded, if that’s the right word. I feel like I’m being put on a different shelf.
‘Sticky’ is about reaching a point in a relationship where you both realize you guys shouldn’t be dating, but you’re doing it anyway just because you like to have that sense of just being able to be honest with the person and comfortable with the person. You kind of ignore all of the signs and red flags because you really want to like the person.
After my mother passed away, I felt as though I would never have a relationship as strong as the one that I had had with her. Then, after a lot of ups and downs, I started dating again – but I realised pretty quickly that I was never going to write cheesy love songs.
I love ‘Threepenny Opera’; I was exposed to it as a little kid because my parents, my mom and my dad, had bonded, when they were dating, over ‘Threepenny Opera’ and introduced it to me, a child, who could barely understand it. But I immediately gravitated even from that early age.
Growing up, dating seemed pretty straightforward: If someone was interested in getting to know you on a romantic level, they approached, exchanged info, and proceeded to communicate with you in a consistent fashion between outings of various natures.
In the age of social media and dating apps, so many people are able to hide behind their Instagram page or their Raya page or Facebook. And it’s like, ‘Let’s set something up! I want to meet face-to-face.’ And ‘Take Me’ was about, ‘Are you going to take me out? Do I have to be the first person to make the move?’
I can literally count on one and a half hands how many people in WWE treated me the same pre-Mark and post-Mark. Michelle McCool didn’t change, I’m still me. There were a ton of people that found out I was dating Mark and was like, ‘Oh, I better change my tune and be super nice.’
I took my wife to a really expensive hotel in Dubai. This was when we were first dating, so I wanted to impress her. I had scallops, and after that, I went to the bathroom to be sick. I realised I had just paid £300 or £400 on scallops just to throw it up. My wife and I then talked about it; I knew I had a problem.
I think back to when I was in high school, to 17-year old Daria, who was dating guys and thought that that was the only way of life. I was very confused, and it was definitely manifesting itself in other parts of my life that were unhealthy.
First of all, there’s the celebrity thing. Like, who are you here for, are you dating me or are you trying to date my dad? These men either just want to be there for one thing and don’t want to stay for the real relationship part or they just want to ride the wave and be bougie and bomb and have their picture taken and do all of that.
It took me until my 40s to realize the five essential areas that are important to at least have a real dating chance. Obviously, beyond the physical compatibility, which is where we all start in junior high school, I think that intellectual compatibility and spiritual compatibility, emotional intelligence, and financial compatibility are important.
I think the good thing about ‘Take Me Out’, which is kind of a compliment to us really, is that when it started doing well round about the second series and people started getting into it, all of a sudden every time you turned over a channel there’s a new dating show on.
Because bisexual people almost have a foot in the gay and the straight world, their friends can misunderstand them too. Like if a bisexual man starts dating another man, people are like ‘Ah, he’s gay,’ but you know, bisexual people remain bisexual, and their attractions can change and flux over time.
I’ve always been fascinated by memory and I remember Jonah, when we first started dating, was working on something involving memory. It was early on in our relationship and I was like, damn it, I wanted to do a movie on memory. That was ‘Memento.’
If you’re in the music to move to Hollywood and be in ‘People’ magazine dating an actress or dating some Hollywood celebrity, are you into it for that side of it? Are you in it to be a millionaire? Or are you in it because you love it and you like playing music and you like going on tour?
In America, interracial dating or marriage is not something that is as accepted. Certain people feel strongly against it, in both communities. I felt it from the black community. It is so complicated. I don’t want to give it too much energy.
Once a date asked me what I do, so I said that my company empowers women in their dating lives. Her response? ‘Aw, that’s so cute!’ Cute is how my babysitter described me when I was 7 years old. Simple fix: Replace cute with hot and he’ll feel like James Bond.
