A feeling is not bottomless. once felt all the way through,a great peace greets you there
When pain brings you down, don’t be silly, don’t close your eyes and cry, you just might be in the best position to see the sun shine.
A brave action is often followed by grief. Do not let my resistance to grief stop the brave action.
I see the whole concept of Generation X implies that everyone has lost hope.
In my opinion, I think sarcasm and humor in a song, without turning it into a novelty song, is really charming.
Down the road, I’ll probably have a kid or two or three. And there will probably be political events or spiritual things to comment on, and humor.
My son was five months old, and I built a makeshift studio in my living room so that I could do the attachment parenting approach and write the record at the same time. That was fortuitous, that we could build that in the house.
I have a profound empathy for people who are in the public eye, whether they manifest it themselves or whether it happened by accident – it doesn’t matter to me. I think there’s a great misunderstanding of what it is to be famous.
I thought the more famous I became, the more friendships I would have, but the opposite was true.
I’ve just always felt it’s an incredibly empowering thing, particularly for young women, to capitalize on their coordination and their strength. It’s a very empowering thing to feel strong in your body.
We’re taught to be ashamed of confusion, anger, fear and sadness, and to me they’re of equal value to happiness, excitement and inspiration.
And if I had a preference, it would be to be able to not be in the studio until 4 in the morning.
Getting married and starting a family has been a lifelong goal and one that I have persevered through different paths up to it!
I think a common misperception about attuning and tending to a child’s needs so constantly is that they don’t grow in their independence, but I think that the opposite is true.
The spirituality that I experience sometimes touches on religion, in that I resonate with the thread of continuity that permeates through all religions. But in terms of it being a concretized, organized part of my life, it’s not.
For four to six months at a time, I would barely eat. I lived on a diet of Melba toast, carrots, and black coffee.
A good man often appears gauche simply because he does not take advantage of the myriad mean little chances of making himself look stylish. Preferring truth to form, he is not constantly at work upon the facade of his appearance.
Courage and willingness to just go for it, whether it is a conversation or a spontaneous trip or trying new things that are scary – it is a really attractive quality.
I didn’t want to be one of those women who wake up at 63 years old and realize they’ve missed the window of opportunity for marriage and children.
I was so ready to become a mom. Actually, I was ready secondarily to become a mom. I was so ready to have the intimacy and commitment of marriage.
My message to anyone who’s afraid that they can’t write music when they’re happy is ‘Just trust the passion.’ The passion can write a lot of things.
Do I appreciate the idea of jealousy, revenge and all these so-called dark qualities? Yes. Do I write these songs in order to engage in some public war with someone? No.
Beauty is now defined by your bones sticking out of your decolletage. For that to be the standard is really perilous for women.
We’ll love you just the way you are if you’re perfect.
I try to keep a low profile in general. Not with my art, but just as a person.
I’m quite obsessed with the idea of nailing the girl friendship. It’s such an art, so delicate.
I could get away with not taking care of myself as a bachelorette but as a mom I can’t.
Peace of mind for five minutes, that’s what I crave.
My greatest environments in which I can grow, or grow up, is in personal romantic relationships with a man.
My own approach has always been to push intense emotions down and attempt to deal with them later. When I was younger, I was terrified to express anger because it would often kick-start a horrible reaction in the men in my life.
When someone says that I’m angry it’s actually a compliment. I have not always been direct with my anger in my relationships, which is part of why I’d write about it in my songs because I had such fear around expressing anger as a woman.
It’s a joke to think that anyone is one thing. We’re all such complex creatures. But if I’m going to be a poster child for anything, anger’s a gorgeous emotion. It gets a bad rap, but it can make great changes happen.
What influenced me was Tori Amos, who was unapologetic about expressing anger through music, and Sinead O’Connor. Those two in particular were really moving for me, and very inspiring, before I wrote ‘Jagged Little Pill.’
Anger has been a really big deal for women: how can we express it without feeling that, as the physically weaker sex, we won’t get killed. The alpha-woman was burned at the stake and had her head chopped off in days of old.