Actively repeating a lie or denial does not make it true.
Extra-marital affairs become things of legend… and often the undoing of legends… and mere mortals.
Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don’t love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy.
Screaming and repeating lies makes them neither true nor more believable.
There is tremendous trauma in the betrayal caused by a perpetual liar as they repeatedly commit psychological abuse.
Direct lies, small lies, huge lies, and lies of omission… these are all self-serving and sources of self-destruction.
In truth, if it isn’t to save your life when it’s in imminent danger, someone yelling at you is just plain wrong. The same is true for ranting or bitching. The same goes double for anything even close to manhandling.
If a man or a woman starts “expecting” sex, then it is no longer special, and a lover will likely start to feel used.
When we make the decisions to be and stay in love, we should also make a decision and commitment to be supportive.
We would not want the joy of physical and sexual intimacy to fade after years together. We need to also remember to keep our intellectual and emotional intimacy every bit as sacred.
Some people think that it’s okay to be downright nasty to people they love. It is not okay. Nasty is never called for, and it’s certainly not sweet, useful, nor positive.
Past misdeeds must only serve as a reference point in calm conversation about lessons learned or actions that taught us to behave better. They should never be bantered about with sarcasm, anger, or nastiness.
Appreciation and respect are mutual needs. We may be wired differently as men and women, but some needs are parallel human needs.
It takes a strong woman to tolerate a weak man. That said, it takes a strong man to tolerate a weak woman, too.
I think we need to develop a powerful dose of tolerance to understand each other’s humanness. None of us is perfect.
Without trust, our relationships lack an essential ingredient for emotional intimacy. We need to be able to totally trust our partner with our deepest thoughts, dreams, fears, and secrets.
Sexy is a decision. We decide that our spouse looks sexy to us. Period. It doesn’t matter our age or how long we’ve been together.
Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is.
If someone yells at me, they are not expressing love. They may be threatening me. They may be expressing great frustration with me. They may simply be trying to control my behavior. However, they are not communicating love.
When we resort to screaming at someone, we are revealing weakness and a sense of helplessness. If we can’t seem to get our message or feelings across any other way, then we get angry, and we get loud!
Irritatingly angry people have no sense of humor when wearing their “angry pants.
I can only imagine that future generations will consider us to have been barbaric for our intolerance of differences.
Unconditional love takes a strong and deliberate evolution. Unconditional love is way beyond emotional involvement. This is loving the person inside the person… loving their very soul.
It matters not which partner is bringing negativity into conversations and exchanges. Toxicity has no place at all between people who have promised to love each other.
Trust means that they will never throw our pain and vulnerabilities in our face. Trust means we know they will protect us and our innermost thoughts and shared feelings without question.
Societies that have condoned male cheating and condemned female cheating are simply male-dominated cultures. Cheating is cheating, no matter who is doing it. It’s wrong.
Apologies require taking full responsibility. No half-truths, no partial admissions, no rationalizations, no finger pointing, and no justifications belong in any apology.
We will remember the hurt, the injustice, and the trauma, but we can forgive the sinner.
I am a great believer in not pushing each other’s “buttons” just because we know where they are! That’s part of trusting each other. We need to trust that our vulnerabilities and challenges are safe with the person we love.
We are imperfect humans and are bound to need attitude adjustments from time to time.
No one needs to be around someone who dulls the shine on a brand new penny.
Life belongs to optimists. Pessimists are just viewers. Making it real, starts with our attitude.
It’s amazing how many cheaters and liars believe they won’t be caught. News Flash: In today’s age of technology, there won’t just be a paper trail. There will be multiple electronic and digital trails, as well.